Blog Train: My Parenting Mantra – Raising Siblings to Love each other

Parenting Mantra
Welcome aboard this blog train – My Parenting Mantra. We have some awesome bloggers who are going to drive it for over a month. We promise to bring you some enriching contents that will add to your own parenting experience.

Thank You, Syeda [Hyderabadi Mom], for introducing me! Super Happy to get aboard this train chauffeured by one Amazing Mommy Blogger Shubada (Rainbow Diaries)

Parenting Mantra
Aarya and Anjali in Lonavala

Parenting is an easy task, said no Mom ever. And like the day my babies where handed to me in little bundles, I am still clueless. Everyday for the last 7 years, I have woken up with a resolution to be a better mom, and do better than yesterday. And each day I sleep asking forgivance for the mistakes I have made, and forgiving them and me.

So what is my Parenting Mantra?

It won’t be a lie, if I say I have None!

TRUE!

I don’t have one!

Every day, every situation is a learning experience. Each day is a new day and with it comes a new challenge.

Honestly Parenting Aarya was a cake-walk.He is a sweet, dedicated and amazing son. He is careless and lies sometimes but he is wonderful in his heart and loves us to the core.Parenting Mantra

But with Anjali, the parenting was a different experience all together. She is unpredictable most of the times. Sometimes needy, sometimes wonderfully independent and hence there is a “new” situation to deal with each day every day.

But like most parents of Siblings, I always want them to be there for each other. Every day, I remind them that even if I weren’t there, they had to be there for each other. Parenting for me is bringing them up together, but uniquely and to make sure that they love each other even when differences amount!

 

Parenting Mantra

 

I wake everyday, and help them nurture their bond, everyday.

I wake everyday, and help them deal with their differences!

I wake everyday, and help them love each other on our most difficult days.

I wake every day, and make them believe that their only competition is themselves and not each other.

I wake everyday, and try to love and support them more, so that they learn to do the same.

I wake everyday, with a promise to myself to be better than yesterday. Because like every adult in this adult world, I lose it more often than I would like to admit. Adulting was difficult, but Oh Boy! Parenting is just another level of crazy on most days!

 

That definitely sums up my journey in a 400 odd word tribute to my Babies who made me a Mother, to the babies who are my whole world, and to my babies for whom I want to be the best version forever. And to my babies who keep us grounded and so so loved <3

 

I would also love to introduce you to this Gorgeous Mommy friend whose Parenting Mantra will be up on her blog tomorrow <3 Read and show her some comment love too. Introducing Dipika of The Gleeful Blogger <3

Parenting Mantra

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33 Comments

  1. I love reading your terrific, honest posts! I know being a parent is very hard work, every day! Don’t be so hard on yourself, and don’t be discouraged. Your children are very bright and very adorable. And they are thriving! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you for your encouraging words Suko!! I love your comments, because they always make me feel so good <3 You are a terrific person <3 and thank you for your kindness, always <3

  2. Wow, I have not consciously thought too much on this aspect of parenting…Thanks for highlighting this. When there are 2 or more kids, siblings part becomes so crucial.

    1. Thank you dear Shub <3 Not once did I ever think about the Sibling Angle while I was planning on having them. I should have know because my sister and me fought like hell too <3 But having said that, i am blessed with a beautiful son who is accommodating and so forgiving <3 and a beautiful daughter who loves him no matter what <3
      I just pray it stays the same always

  3. I am the mother of grown daughters. I think one of the most important things you can do with your children is teach them to like each other. I thought my kids would kill each other some days, but now as adults they are friends! That is important to me.

    1. Dear Michele, Thank you so much for your advice. And it is such an important one. Yes, I have thought on some bad days that they will end up killing each other or worse hating each other. But on those days I remind them, that God gave them this bond, and it is their job to make it work. Would they want to be miserable or happy? If they choose happy, they know what to do <3
      I pray the friendship between your daughters stay the same forever.

    1. Dear Menaka,
      I am also the same kind of person, who goes with the flow. But with siblings, the dynamics change a bit and it is always a little extra work to make them get along with each other <3

    1. So so true, each of us deal with different set of challenges each day <3 And thank you for your wonderful comment <3

  4. I really admire your efforts. It can be so difficult to deal with the kids differences especially at this age. You have given me goals for more patience in parenting!

    1. Dear Lata, thank you so much for your comment <3 You are my role Model, the one fab Mom I always look up to. You saying that just made my whole month <3

  5. Sibling love is the most beautiful thing in life. I remember how my doctor use to call my elder one on each visit of my second pregnancy. Doctor use to give a good gyan to my elder one to help mom and love the new baby. All these help them love each other.

  6. Love your thought – competition to yourself and to each other…! I think in this crazy competitive world all of us should remember this. Sharing some of my thoughts on similar grounds πŸ™‚
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  7. These days i am dealing with the same sibling issues. My two kids sometimes fights a lot but same time they cant live without each other. Tring to understand their feelings and priorities. Your post will help me in dealing with the same

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