The Reading Momster

Freedom to Choose

Hello and welcome to #LetsDiscussFreedom Blogathon Day 3! And today, I am talking about FREEDOM to CHOOSE!

When Aarya was born all I wanted was to make sure he was surrounded by BOOKS! And he was, there were so many books all around, all I wanted to do is read to him, and make sure he became a “READER”. I was obsessed with the idea, that if I did not take initiative, he will never read! And you know what happened? Of course, the most terrible thing – he began to hate books, he would just turn away from them. As he grew older, he was more and more defiant! He would read his textbooks, but not storybooks or anything I SUGGESTED. My heart broke into million pieces, when I realised that PROBABLY this was MY MISTAKE! I tried too hard, I pushed too hard and I imposed too much! I never realised Freedom to choose what they want is an important thing for kids!

 

 

The Above video, a rendition of a very famous book “The Girl who hated Books” is almost our story ( of course the Dad here isn’t a reader).

 

 

 

 

And today I BEG you to NOT make that mistake! Here is how I made peace with this and still found a common ground!

Don’t force Your Favourite Books on the Kids

Honestly, there are o many books that I love, the kids don’t enjoy! What can I do? Nothing, wait for a day for them to start loving the books you like, or read to other kids who might like it but don’t force read! Read what they like! Give the FREEDOM to CHOOSE which books they want to read, yes! It could be some Potty-Humour Book (yuck!) or something even more gross – read that!

It’s ok if they don’t want to READ!

Reading is IMPORTANT! No doubt! But seriously, it is not the end of the world if your Child doesn’t read on his own, or doesn’t like books without pictures (our case)! WHat’s important is that he reads! so if he reads NON-fiction, thats GREAT! Don’t tree about reading the amazing books that you want them to read! Aarya found that he enjoys reading Fact books, and there is no pressure in finishing the book. So he read whenever he wants, and goes around telling everyone the cool new fact he just learned! Works for me!

Read EVERYDAY

So what, if he doesn't read on his own - READ TO HIM!

Yes! I still read to my kiddo who is 7, and no I don’t plan on stopping! And he LOVES it! Thank God for that! Reading to older kids is awesome and is the time we bond 🙂 I am super glad he loves listening to me!

Giving kids the freedom to make their choices, and owning them – is the 1st and most important lessons that I have learnt! It’s ok, to let go if they don’t except your choices, and make their own path 🙂

 

This blog post is a part of #LetsDiscussFreedom Blogathon. I would like to thank Aparna who blogs at Vintage Mommy for  introducing me. I would now like to introduce Jinal, who blogs at ForeverSassyMommy.com  and recommend you to read her views on the prompt, ‘What Does Freedom Mean To You’.

3 thoughts on “Freedom to Choose

  1. This is My experience too, Veena. Being an avid reader , I wanted Mishti to be one too. So I exposed her to number of books very early. I guess she must have been two or three years old. I used to read to her regularly so I assumed she will be a reader. I used to read regularly so I made an incorrect assumption, formed unrealistic expectations that she is going to learn by observing and I am going to raise a reader. I didn’t even force her to read books of my choice. I let her decide and choose her own books but she never read until she was 7 years. But her experience of drawing illustrations for one of my blogger friend’s children book was a start to her journey of being a reader. Now she reads Enid Blyton, Roald Dahl, Sudha Murthy & yes you will be extremely surprised to know that she read Ernest Hemingway’s ‘ Old Man & The Sea’ abridged version at the age of 8 years. We read it together, and I had to assist her to understand the context but I am so happy that she has made the right choices when it comes to choosing authors. ( quite a long comment but this is my favourite topic to discuss)

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